Every summer approximately 10 million children pack up their clothes, bedding, and favorite pillows and head off to summer camp. Most will return home with wonderful memories of new friends and fun-filled days. Some will return home with devastating memories that will last a lifetime—memories of being sexually abused.

According to Psychology Today, approximately 50 percent of all sexual abuse is done by adolescents, and summer camp is a perfect place for abuse to happen. While no camp is immune from the possibility of sexual abuse, there are steps parents can take to ensure their child is safe.

Start Young

When teaching your child the names of body parts, use the proper terms for penis, scrotum, vagina, and anus. The use of euphemisms can jeopardize your child’s credibility should they someday need to report abuse. Explain that these parts of their body are very private, and that no one should be touching them there unless that person has a legitimate reason (e.g., a pediatrician or early childcare provider).

Because every child molester asks their victims to keep the abuse between the two of them, teach your child that it’s never OK to keep a secret (unless it has an "expiration" date, such as a surprise party) and that if someone touches his private parts he needs to tell you or another adult (many camps forbid cell phones) immediately—and to keep telling until he gets help. Even if someone just makes a child feel uncomfortable when he's nearby, he needs to report that, too. Make it clear that no matter what another child or adult may tell him, he will never get into trouble for reporting.

Lastly, move heaven and earth to make sure that no adult is ever allowed to be alone and out of public view with your child. The only way abusers can do what they do is by having uninterrupted, private access to a child.

Screening the Camp: Questions to Ask

  • Are criminal reference checks done on all personnel? How many references do you require, and how do you check them?
  • What training do staff members receive about child sexual abuse?
  • How are campers made aware of what to do if they feel unsafe?
  • Under what circumstances are staff members allowed to be alone with a camper? (The answer needs to be: NONE!)
  • How does the camp monitor behavior of older campers with their younger peers?
  • Are at least two adult counselors assigned to sleep in each cabin?
  • Who is responsible for enforcing camp rules and regulations?

Characteristics of Potential Abusers

The Center for Disease Control and Prevention reported in 2005 that 1 in 6 boys and 1 in 4 girls are sexually assaulted before the age of 18. The vast majority of abusers, 90 percent, are male, and 71 percent of the time, the abuser is acquainted with the victim.

Whenever someone seems to be overly interested in your child, beware. Camps routinely forbid their counselors to babysit or spend time with campers outside camp precisely because a counselor who has had the opportunity to develop a close relationship with your child is in a position to have an undue amount of influence. Sexual predators tend to be masters at “grooming” their victims by insinuating themselves into their victim’s life and becoming someone the child likes and trusts.

What many parents don’t realize is that almost a third of sexually abused children are victimized by an older child. That’s why it’s important to know what the camp’s policies are regarding how much contact is permitted between different age groups and how well supervised the groups are.

Warning Signs of Sexual Abuse in Young Children

  • Trouble walking or sitting
  • Precocious awareness of sexual topics
  • Seductive behavior
  • Unprecedented shyness about getting undressed
  • Avoiding a specific individual for no apparent reason
  • Sleep disturbances
  • Bedwetting or soiling
  • Expressing concern about genitalia
  • Reluctance to go back to camp

Warning Signs of Sexual Abuse in Older Children

  • Unusual interest in or avoidance of sexual topics
  • Depression or suicidal thoughts
  • Self isolation, emotional aloofness
  • Hostility or aggressive behavior
  • Secretiveness
  • Seductive behavior
  • Sleep disturbances
  • Substance abuse
  • Reluctance to go back to camp

What to Do if You Suspect Your Child Has Been Abused

First and foremost, keep your true feelings hidden and remain calm and collected. It’s the most courageous and kindest thing you can do for your child. Research shows that the single most important factor in a child’s doing well after being abused is the steady emotional support of her parents.

Many times victims of child sexual abuse will wait years or decades before revealing what happened, and even then it’s usually only to their therapist.  When asked why they never reported the abuse as a child, patients admit that sometimes the sexual stimulation of their genitalia was pleasurable and they always believed this meant the abuse was partially their own fault. That’s why it’s critically important to explain to a child that the abuse is never, ever their fault, not even a little tiny bit, no matter what.

Some children never report because they fear they won’t be believed, especially when the abuser is known and trusted by the family. Tell your child you believe him; children rarely lie about having been sexually abused. Acting as though you might doubt your child will only compound the psychological damage sustained from having been abused.

After your child has finished telling you what happened, praise them for confiding in you and let her know you realize it couldn’t have been easy. Then immediately notify the local authorities or call the National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453).


Child molesters are adept at manipulating their victims into believing that the abuse is the child’s fault, that he won’t be believed if it’s reported, and that he or someone they love will get hurt if abuse gets reported. By letting your child know her private parts are off limits to others and that she will never get in trouble for reporting, that it’s never OK for someone to ask them to keep a “forever” secret, and by not allowing any adult to be alone with your child, you’re making your child far less vulnerable to predators who know how to exploit the naivete of children.

Dr. Jackie Humans is a graduate of the Workplace Bullying Institute, the only organization in the United States that trains individuals how to present anti-bullying programs for bullying in the workplace. She also works with Child Abuse Prevention Services (CAPS), a nonprofit organization that sends volunteers into schools to present programs about keeping kids safe. She is a well-known speaker and program leader on subjects such as bully prevention, Internet safety, sexual harassment, date rape and child abuse. She is the author of 15 Ways to ZAP a Bully!