Choose the Right Activity for Your Child 

Soccer, dance, tennis, gymnastics, voice lessons, painting class, Scouts: the list of activities for children is a long one. Everything looks like fun, so how do you choose which sport or activity is right for your child? Here are a few things to consider before you sign up.

First, don’t necessarily put sports at the top of the list. Although playing sports is a great way to promote physical fitness, not all children are athletes—or even athletic. Allow your child to explore the arts or move out of the mainstream with his activity selection.

Play to your child’s strengths and interests. If your child is dramatic, encourage her to try drama club. If your child is a fast runner, think about track. If he’s full of creative ideas, consider art classes.

Talk with your child about her interests and try to narrow her focus. Ask what sport or activity she would like to try. Many kids’ programs will offer a free trial class or a discounted rate for the first month so children can see if the activity is everything they thought it would be—and it holds their interest. Parents need to ask themselves if the activity works out with the dynamics of family life, such as driving distance, dinner hour, and schedule conflicts.

Do you think your child would be better suited on a team or going solo? Some activities, like baton twirling or playing a musical instrument, can offer both, or begin as one and transition into the other. But don’t be afraid to let your child “go it alone.” Don’t feel that she needs a friend to participate. Encourage her to try new things on her own.

Remember, more than anything else, being supportive and encouraging will go a long way in helping your child be happy with his chosen activity.

Down to the details
Once you’ve selected an activity, ask yourself these questions about the facility or program you are considering:

Administration

• Is the activity well organized?
• Are there guidelines for all to follow?
• What are the program philosophies?
• Does the coach/instructor have realistic expectations of children this age?
• Are the parent requirements doable?
• Are the time and financial commitments manageable for our family?

 Safety

• Is the facility clean and well-maintained?
• Is the proper safety equipment used?
• Are the coaches/staff trained in first aid?
• Do the coaches/staff have adequate help to manage the number of children they’ve been assigned?

Interest and readiness

• Is my child’s skill level within the normal range of the activity and the other children who are signed up?
• Do the time frame and class expectations realistically match my child’s activity level and attention span?

Finances

• Are scholarships available?
• Are there any hidden costs, such as uniforms, equipment, art supplies, tournament registrations, etc.?
• Can we buy or rent used equipment?
• Can we get a discount if we enroll more than one child or refer another family to the program?
• Can I work lining fields, washing uniforms, or assisting the activity director with office work to help cover costs?

Angela Chastain is a freelance writer with three active sons.

June 2009