The House or the Town
Would you sacrifice square footage to get your kids into a great public school system?
(page 1 of 2)
Judy Pitsios, a NJ mother of two, is facing a dilemma that many parents can relate to. She and her husband own a home in a town where the public schools are not ideal. With their oldest child entering elementary school next year, the family has a choice to make. Should they move to a smaller home in a town where housing prices are higher but the public schools are better or should they stay in their current home and start saving money for private school? Pitsios says, “We obsessively search the real-estate site Trulia every week for homes in our dream towns where the schools are top-notch. But we haven’t been able to find a home we like in one of these communities that is within our budget.”
All parents want their children to have a good education, but defining what this means—and what the “best” course of action is—is subject to much debate.
Buying Into a Town
One of the most compelling reasons parents chose to send their children to public school is the cost. Many families forgo square footage in order to live in a town that has an excellent school district. Even with scholarship opportunities, private school is a big financial investment, especially for families with more than one child. Ilene Burns* says, “We lived in a town that we loved where the school district was just okay. I researched the cost of sending all three of our children to private school. It actually cost us less to move to a town with a top-rated school district. It wasn’t the only reason we moved, but it did factor into our decision.”
Aside from the long-term financial benefit, there are other reasons many parents prefer that their child attend public school. Jeffrey Heller* says, “I myself went to a very large public school. I feel that the environment offers kids more options, teaches them more resilience, and allows them to interact with a more diverse, interesting cross-section of the world, not just those privileged enough to be able to afford private school.”
Sara Friedman* and her husband bought a starter home in a town that did not have a highly regarded school district and moved when their oldest was entering kindergarten. Friedman explains, “Personally, I never liked the idea of private school for my children, so it was important to me to live in a town with great public schools. I think going to school in town allows the kids and myself to feel connected to the community we live in.”
Why Choose Private School?
For many parents, the choice between public and private schools has a lot to do with their own experience. John Mooney, an editor and education writer for njspotlight.com says, “Most people who went to private school as children, tend to want the same type of private school experience for their child.”
For other parents, the decision to send their children to private school results from what they are experiencing in their public school. Denise Haver* says, “It never occurred to me that I would send my kids to private school, but when we started in public, I was very put off by the focus on standardized tests and on ‘preparation’ but not on inspiration, creative thought, critical thinking. I wanted my children to be inspired the way I was.”
Margaret Woods and her husband sent their daughter to a public elementary school but were disappointed. She is now in private school where they say, “The classes are smaller, the students are more engaged, and the academic focus is on experiential learning.”
Lauren Zimmer* and her husband looked at several homes in other towns but ultimately decided to stay put and send their children to private high school. Zimmer says, “It is not that the high school in our town isn’t good academically. But I did not like what I was hearing about socially—drug use, fighting. I didn’t feel my children could best learn in that environment.”
Is a move the right choice for you and yours? ->